In order to have something different [your vision], you must carve out a new space and create new habits & routines.  But then comes the internal struggle… the tug-of-war between “old you” and “new you.” 

Have you ever felt like you were playing tug-of-war against yourself?

You know what you should be doing… but you find yourself not doing it.

And instead, making excuses or getting caught up in busywork (procrastinating)… and before you know it, the day is gone.

Argh!  It’s like we have this vision of what we want, and the more we push toward it, the more “stuff” pops up that holds us back.

It’s a tug-of-war that we all play against ourselves.

How do you get past it?

Enemies in the Head (What does that mean?)

First I want to introduce it as something that most people experience in anything they do.

A person in their current state has set out a vision. They have a goal, something that they want. That’s the desired state. Where they are now is the current state. There are actions that have to occur in order to attain that desired state.

But sometimes there’s a bit of fumble going on in here. The actions don’t get done, and then you have to wait a year and start that weight loss goal again. The example I’m giving is on foods.

This is what I call a seven-day reveal, and I do it in business. If I write down what I do every 30 minutes, then it’s going to reveal to me what foods I’m eating that are not in the desired state, what exercise I do and for how long, etc.

To become the desired you, remove all enemies of becoming the new you.

Enemies? What do I mean, enemies? Well, if I’m eating bad foods, then that’s going to be an enemy to attaining that goal.

The thing I’m going to dial in here is that something is telling you to eat bad food and not exercise. I call that “enemies in the head.” That’s what I’m going to talk about today.

Enemies in the head, what in the world does that mean? By the time you’re done with this post, you’re going to fully understand it, and be able to handle it as well.

Carve Out the Space 

For those of you who haven’t seen this, here is the pipeline. This is how all businesses get customers. This is how all businesses acquire employees. This is how politicians get votes. This is everything in terms of acquisition.

Some people can do this. Some people can’t do this at first glance when they first try, so I’m teaching a bridge to it.

We’re covering the step now of carving out the space in your life to do it.

But what I’m going to do today is merge this step with the next step of making the time. I’m going to cycle back and forth between carve out the space, make the time, carve out the space, make the time, because that’s really where the heart of change happens.

Carving out the space is the problem, and making the time is the solution. I don’t want to just give you problem, problem, problem, problem, problem. I want to go back and forth to help you resolve this.

Let’s jump in here. This is going to be fun.

This is a visual of carved-out space. This is a tunnel that that goes from Tijuana to San Diego, and you can see the walls of a carved-out space.

The last time you carved out space, made the time, and formed habits and routines, you built “walls” that keep you in that space, and those habits and routines.

You can look at anything you want – for example, from the time you didn’t brush your teeth to the time you did brush your teeth, you carved out space, then got in the habit of brushing your teeth.

 Are you FOR or AGAINST your new vision right now?

Senior to it all is you making the decision, and having that identity of brushing your teeth or that identity of eating healthy foods or that identity of working out or that identity of doing the pipeline.

From identities, you get actions and it’s those actions that carve the groove.

The identity establishes that we want to do this. That’s the desired result, but you have to do the actions in order to carve the groove. In order to have something different, which is your vision, or desired state, now you must carve out a new space and create new habits and routines.

People who say, “You can’t teach an old dog a new trick,” don’t understand what I’m about to show you.

If you just think through the example that I just gave you, you’ll see that when you get a new vision, it’s the same as the old one; it’s just that the old one is grooved in.

However, if the new vision is contradicting something that you’ve already grooved in, you’ll have to cut through this old channel.

That’s where this concept of carve out the space comes from.

WHY Must We Carve out the Space?

Let me start at the thing that’s the most senior to all actions:

Before every action you take is an identity driving that action.

Let’s say that I go to the grocery store, and I happen to have my golf clubs in the trunk.

I then say, “Hey, you know what? I think I’m going to go hit some golf balls.”

There was an identity that was taking me to the grocery store, and there was an identity that crossed over the top of that and said, “Hey, I’m going to the golf course.”

Those are two different identities. One wants to play golf. The other one wants to get groceries. Do you get this idea? The identity always comes before the action.

You are being something all the time.

That “something” is either for or against your new vision.

That’s really where this explanation begins to take root, and you can start really feeling what this change is about, and how there’s resistance, and so forth.

But what I really want to clue you in on is that senior to all of it is identity. Even if you change an action or two, you’re still going to have to change the identity. Otherwise that identity is always going to be showing up.

If it is against your vision, it is an enemy, and must be treated as an enemy.

This “something” that you’re being is either for, or against your new vision. If it’s against it, it’s an enemy and needs to be treated as such.

How do you make more time?

I’ve mentioned “carve out the space” a whole lot, but I want you to know the purpose behind it now.

You wrote your vision. If we go all the way back to the beginning of the bridge to the pipeline, then you wrote your new vision and your plan to get that vision.

Then you did the seven-day reveal that revealed your true identity and exposed the enemies (identities, and actions) of your new vision and plans.

They’re enemies because they are in conflict to who you want to be. Parts of “the old you” are now enemies to the desired “new you.” It feels like a tug of war, because it is.

You can think of these as bad habits. You can think of it as trying to drive in new good habits of something that you’re not used to doing. That resistance is an enemy to you. If you’re trying to drive something in and something’s pushing you back, then that’s an enemy to you. If you’re trying to quit something, but something keeps trying to get you to do it, then that’s an enemy to you.

Now, identify and remove all enemies that are blocking you from executing your vision and plan of what you really want the most.

I’m talking right here about executing it. A lot of times people make the goal, but they never move into that action step to start implementing and executing their plan to get their vision.  

Duh! D’oh!

I don’t know if you know “d’oh,” but Homer Simpson says that. It’s an annoyed grunt. I watched a show with Harry Shearer, the voice of Homer, and he was talking about how he came up with that as a concept. It was to quickly show that he had an annoyed grunt.

The reason I say, “Duh,” and, “D’oh,” is because:

Your day is already full. How do you make more time?

• Get rid of (carve out) all enemies of what you really want.
• Fill that space (which is a void) with only actions aligned with your new vision.

The reason I said, “D’oh!” is because of the frustration I have when people say things to me like: “I don’t have time.”

I say, “D’oh! You don’t have time to make $100,000 or $1,000,000 because you’re too busy trying to earn less?”

That is the way I hear it, because there was a time that I didn’t do network marketing. There was a time that I was struggling, making about $1,300-1,400 a month. I had to go through that transition to understand that all the things that I was doing were blocking me. They were enemies to me making millions.

Once you fully get this idea and this concept, then it literally sets you free, because now you understand the real thing that’s holding you back.

Using Your 7-Day Reveal to Find Enemies

Identity is senior to actions.

I’ll run down this list of the seven-day reveal. I just mocked one up here as an example:

At 6:30 in the morning, I had tea and planned my day. Then I worked out, showered and cleared email. In one of those emails, I watched a video and then I watched a related video to that. And then I started searching for a crockpot to buy, and then I read reviews on crockpots. Then I had to solve a problem my wife had, so I came out and grabbed a ladder so the cleaning people could clean the top of the rafters. Then my actions of the day continued from there.

You see, that’s what a seven-day reveal is going to reveal. I then blocked off these things that didn’t have anything to do with my goals.

Way back in 1989 when I was new and full-time in the military and I was trying to get into that action mode, I did a similar type of a thing, because I had made a comment to the person who brought me into the business that I didn’t have time.

With these little sections right here, if I was brand new right now, I would carve all these out. I carved these items out to make space for actions that do attain my goals.

You can look at this as those channels that I showed you that go from Tijuana to San Diego and back. Those are channels.

People get into routines, and you’re going to see similarities across each day, if you go about it for a week. They’re walls, remember?

When you go and look at this, and you say, “I ain’t messing with that. No, I’ve got to do that. No, I have to do that,” that is the stuff that is the, “D’oh!”

It only took me five years to get to $150,000 a month in income. If you just say, “Hey, wait a minute. If I really go after this and it’s achievable and I’m not the only person who’s done that,” then you would look at this in a different context.

Where do I put Carved Out Items?

Once I carve these out, am I just going to get rid of them? Where do I put carved-out items?

Yes, you could delete them if it meant the kind of money that you want, or the goal you want.

I’d be willing to delete. I’ve told this story before, but I went into my garage. I lifted up the garage door, looked in there and looked at every single thing in there. There were several 10-speed bicycles. There were golf clubs. There were weapons that I liked to play with, bows, and all kinds of different things in there.

I got rid of it all, and I said, “I can get better stuff later,” and that’s just what I did. If it didn’t make me $10,000 a month, I didn’t do it anymore. That was just my motto at that time.

You could delete it. You could delegate it to somebody else. You could put it into a bucket called, “Some day, maybe.” All the subscriptions to magazines that I had coming to me, for example, I just canceled those things, just deleted them, and I put them in a category of, “Someday, maybe I’d like to get Woodworking Magazine again,” or whatever it was that I had.

The point is really that there’s just this point that you’re going to have to face at some point in time. It is a point and this is the point. Tough-up, man-up, woman-up, whatever you want to call it, and remove actions that aren’t moving you towards your vision, because they are enemies.

THIS is What is Holding You Back

Let me go back through what I went over in the intro again.

To become the desired you, remove all enemies of becoming the new you.

This identity (the current state person) is holding you back. This person doesn’t want you to do the seven-day reveal, doesn’t want you to change habits and routines. The current you spent a long time creating the current habits and routines, and that’s that channel.

There you go. Now you’re looking square at the enemy and it’s you. Fortunately, it’s only parts of you, but in reality, what’s happening here is that you are trying to prevent it.

You are the source.

It would be great if you could say, “Oh, it’s somebody else. It’s this, or it’s that.”

Those are called excuses. Once you start creating those, you turn on that excuse manufacturing machine, and it just runs on autopilot forever. No, you’re responsible for every condition and every circumstance that you are in.

So this current state person is trying to hold you back. Now, you have to take a look at this. This is very interesting because this person is also the one who created this as an idea and a goal, and is something that they want. Now you’ve got two identities, and they are struggling. That’s what’s really going on.

You Know You Must Grow to Get What You Want

The funny thing is that you made both of these identities.

I did a video once where I had a big chess board sitting on the table. I was talking about how I used to play chess with myself. If my sister wouldn’t play with me or whatever, I would set up the chessboard and I would play. I would pretend that one side was the dumb side, and the other side was the smart side, and I would pretend that I didn’t notice that I just opened up a spot for the king to get taken out.

Going from the current state to the desired state is the game. You’re playing the game, because you are able to move identities in an instant, but you don’t feel that.

There’s a struggle coming out of the current identity. The desired identity is pulling you, and the current identity has got one around your neck, saying, “No, no, no, no, you don’t want to do this!”

That’s the fight. That’s the war. That’s the tug of war that is going on.

I believe that when you really understand it, like I just explained it, that you’ll be able to ponder a minute and then say, “Wow. I see it everywhere now.”

Notice how frequently you say you want to do something, and then get caught up in something else.

For example, your TV’s on and you look over at it, grab the remote and turn it up, wondering what it was showing. Then you end up not going and doing the thing you were heading out to go do.

That’s an enemy to your goals.

If you watch it, you’re going to see it all day long. It’s going to be a bit of a pain, because you’re going to know, and spot, the smart you and the dumb you. You’ll spot it all the time.

Let Me Know:

1. Have you experienced this tug of war between old you/new you?
2. Have you experienced it in network marketing?
3. How did you win?

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